A conversation with some friends kept me thinking. Infidelity - who's to be blamed?
As a woman myself, I would love to put the blame on the guy. After all, he is the one who's having an affair (well, sorta). lol. But a guy friend stood up and mentioned that such temptations only natural and you can't blame it on the guy.
Guy Friend: imagine this one couple- One day, something happen to the guy and he really needs someone to talk to. But, the girl is prolly bz/ in one of her mood swings/they are in LDR and due to time differences and stuff, she is nowhere reachable. and at the same time, there's this girl who's right there before his very eyes, offering her shoulder to cry on. Then they fast become friends and before they know it, they fall in love. end of story.
Hmmm..
Then came a girl friend of mine who mentioned the fault at the 3rd person's side. Hence the term bitch, so she said.
And that got me thinking. even more. Is it the 3rd person's fault for the guy to fall in love with her? Or could it be the 1st girl's fault for not being able to be there for the guy whenever he needs her? or this is merely FATE? could be. pfftt.
Owh well, I guess the answer varies. I am a firm believer that love doesn't just fade away. Not unless you let it be.
To the guys out there: Offer your commitment only if you truly are ready to be committed. A broken glass can be easily fixed/ replaced. A broken heart is not.
To the girls: You don't want your guy to be cheating on you. So why would you want to be cheating with someone else's guy? or worse, take him away from his girl? if he can do that with you, why can't he do the same to you?
To the owners of the broken hearts: If a person doesn't love you enough, then he does not deserve your love. keep your heads up high. Better guys will come along. God only let you meet the worse so you can better appreciate the best. (^_^)V
Love is blind. That may be true. But you are not!
As I am writing this, there are ladies out there who's mending broken hearts. Whose hopes were shattered into million pieces. And naturally, some manage to bounce from the fall, many.. remain hurt. And I can only hope.. that in the future.. less and less bitches exist, fewer hearts are broken and more and more great love stories are created.
PS: This is only based on a conversation during lunch hour. What if the roles are reversed? A girl cheating on a guy? I'm not eliminating that possibility. teeheee....
Toodles~
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i have to say this lah. Things just happen. It's easy to want to blame these things on someone; others or ourselves but the truth of the matter is just that things evolve. People change. Needs differ and at the end of the day, when things don't go the way we plan them to be, maybe it's for the best? Maybe in trying to find peace with our broken hearts, it's more important to realize that everything happens for a reason and with God's intent. So, less trying to pinpoint blame, more being happy with yourself and the great love you are capable of giving to men who actually deserve it.
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